How do the Partner and Doula Work Together?
Supporting a woman to labour and birth normally can be hard physical work. Victoria says, “I find that on the day following a birth, my body aches with the physical effort of supporting the labouring woman.” When a woman gives birth, particularly for the first time, her body often requires many hours to stretch and open to bring her baby safely into the world. In many hospitals, the staff team have the responsibility of caring for a number of labouring women at the same time and are not able to provide continuous support to individual women. For a partner working by himself, supporting his woman is a marathon task, as he does not have the wonderful endorphins provided to the woman by her body, relieving her pain and rendering her unaware of the passage of time. The presence of the Doula enables the partner or husband to participate in the birth at his comfort level. Victoria models support techniques for the partner to use and then this hard work can be shared according to the needs and wishes of you both. Your doula can prepare food for you both as necessary, and provide reminders to you both to eat and drink. When your partner needs a break to attend to his own needs, he can be assured that you will be supported through every contraction by your doula.
The Doula recognizes that no one can replace a woman’s partner or husband at the birth because of the unique love connection which exists between you. The emotional support and comfort that your husband/ partner can bring to you during labour is of a quality no other human being can provide. The Doula understands that this support is essential to you in labour and by doing the physical work of heating up the hot pack, filling the bath, applying counter pressure to your lower back, or taking photos, she enables your husband/partner to focus their full energy on providing you with this wonderful form of support and attention. Travelling through birth together in this way is an experience that can bring a couple even closer together, reaffirming their connection, and providing an intense memory of the depth of their partnership which can last a lifetime.
“You gave my husband the priceless gift of being able to enjoy that day through guidance and support. What an honour it was to have found you and have you share and support our family on our most important day. Thank you will never be enough.”
Diane, North Blackburn